Three Best Values for Success and Happiness

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What are the three best values for success and happiness?

It’s simple.

Just live three values: Seek Wisdom, Practice Love and Get Results until they become habits, part of your very being, so you naturally develop the high trust, high performance relationships that bring success and happiness.

That’s it. Covenant Leadership. It will give you the best chance for success and happiness in all areas of your life.

How does it work?

Success

At work, the more your clients-customers trust you, the more business they give you.  The more your employees trust you, the more commitment, productivity, and performance you get. Combine more business with higher performance, and you have a big advantage in the marketplace.

In non-profits or public service, higher performance means better services at a lower cost. In the military, it means winning more battles with fewer casualties.

At home, higher trust and performance means better relationships with your spouse and kids. Raise your kids with Covenant Leadership, and you give them the best chance for happiness and success in their lives.

Happiness

The Harvard Study on Adult Development confirms what you already know, that happiness in life comes from good relationships. People in strong relationships are not only happier, but also healthier and live longer.

The Key to Success and Happiness

The key to happiness and success is high trust, high performance relationships. How do you develop the best relationships?

The more people trust your wisdom, the more they know that you love them, and the more they know that you get results, the higher trust and higher performance your relationships will be.

Seek Wisdom, Practice Love, and Get Results.

Why three values and not four or more? Because most people can’t remember or do more than three things.

Wisdom

Wisdom is the knowledge that comes with experience.

When you learn how to drive, you are told that pressing the brake pedal will make your car will slow down and stop. But that knowledge about the brake pedal does not make you good at using the brake.

To get good at braking, you have to practice using the brake 10,000 times in different kinds of traffic and weather conditions. The more you practice, the more it becomes a habit, part of who you are—your character. The more it becomes a habit, the more situational awareness, vision, and wisdom you develop about using the brake.

Knowledge about something is nice, but wisdom that comes from experience is much more important.

Who do you trust more, the pilot who knows about flying or the pilot who has completed 500 flights? Do you trust and hire the doctor who knows about surgery or the doctor who has completed 100 successful surgeries?

Wisdom is the knowledge you get when you practice something until it becomes a habit and part of your character.

The more people trust your wisdom, the stronger and higher performance your relationships will be. Seek Wisdom.

Love

Some people think relationships are based in power. Others think relationships are transactional.

The best, highest performance relationships, however, are based in love—agape love.

Agape love is the deepest kind of love—when you are willing to sacrifice yourself for another. The total love of a parent for a child. The willingness of soldiers to die for each other on the battlefield.

Agape love is the self-sacrificing love that inspires the deepest commitment and strongest relationships possible. Practice Love so it becomes a habit, part of your being.

Results

When you Seek Wisdom and Practice Love, you have the best chance to Get Results.

The more people trust that you get results, the stronger and higher performance your relationships.

A basketball player has to make the shot at the end of the game. The salesperson has to close the deal. The CFO has to produce accurate financials. Managers have to make their numbers. The tech has to fix the problem.

As a parent, you have to keep your children safe. Friends have to be there when you need them.

The more people trust you to get results—especially under pressure—the stronger your relationships, performance, and success. Get Results.

The Best Three Values

It is simple: Seek Wisdom, Practice Love, and Get Results in all your relationships—with yourself, with family and friends, at work, and in your community—until they become habits, part of your character. You will naturally develop the relationships that bring success and happiness in all areas of your life.

They will become your culture and brand.

That’s Covenant Leadership.

What do you think?

I’m Pete Bowen.